Everything that has a beginning has its ending either a good or a bad ending and always a journey of thousands of miles start with a single step. In love life the story is the same. If demands and expectations are made, then the doing will be smooth and enriching right from the first encounter to the last day. One of the worst experiences in life is a broken marriage and termination of a romantic relationship. This paper will analyze by explaining how to end a romantic relationship which can be an easy or difficult process depending on the two parties’ (the two people involved) commitment.
To end a romantic relationship is not as easier as it is said. When it appears that couples can not cope up with each other, it is far and much better to end that relationship in peace and not in pieces. There are so many factors that may lead up to ending a romantic relationship assuming this relationship is between a man and a woman. Some of the factors include; how long that relationship has been in existence, one partner having a chronic disease or infection like HIV/AIDS, unable or unwilling to meet some demands like sex before marriage, discovering hidden information from other previous relationships, family ties where a relationship may be between relatives for instance cousins and recurrent fights between the two among the few reasons. The duration of a relationship which has been long may end up being boring even though to some degree it is romantic and one partner may decide to call it quits hence end the relationship as (Howse, Hugh and Marshall 45) agree that, “the subtle guilt of doing something wrong makes it difficult for the individual to settle down into a relationship and these pulls and pushes result in anxiety and ultimately the breakdown of the relationship and thus accounting for the transitory and short lived nature of these relationships”.
To others, having or discovering a chronic disease like cancer or HIV in the other partner will necessitate termination of this relationship though for some people or partners this is not an issue. A relationship can be ended due to peculiar demands weird behavior from the other partner like soliciting for sex before its time that is marriage. Some people end their romantic lives after discovering some hidden information, for instance, one partner had been in a relationship and having children with the former relationship without divulging it to the new romantic partner. Romantic relationships have their black side like fighting day in day out and this can be the best reason to end the relationship.
After much contemplation on reasons that will necessitate the termination or ending of a romantic relationship, then it will be a smooth ending. Another major factor to help in ending a relationship is true love between the couples which will ensure good friendship and not hatred of any kind. However, jealousy plays its role even before and after disengagement from the other partner in many relationships. Many virtues come into play as plans and thoughts are revised to end a relationship and among them are; being honest and straightforward, kind, loving and patient. The longer the relationship it is or has been the harder to terminate it which needs patience of the highest order. Loving partners take their time to figure out strategies on ending their relationship which demands kindness and love. It had but when these virtues are stomached then the end result will not and never be detrimental at all. It is better to take a considerable amount of time to end a romantic relationship to avoid future mêlées and disturbances. For instance, when one partner quits a relationship in the middle of its due course of dating, it will go underground for a while and it will mysteriously appear on the wedding day especially when the other partner is jealousy and may seek to embarrass the other partner just out jealousy after the immature termination of the relationship which no longer exists.
Ending a romantic relationship depends on the people involved for instance friends, relatives and in some relationships parents. However, parents have no authority over their sons or daughters in marital or friendship relationship but only act as guards through offering their pieces of advice. While ending a romantic relationship mutual understanding and communication must prevail to avoid future coincidences. Coincidences have occurred especially when a partner was left stranded. Left stranded but one day when this other former partner is conducting a wedding, it is disrupted and fights ensue when the other party especially women fight hard to spoil the party o a former friend who left her in suspend only to resurface and marrying another woman.
One main step to terminate a relationship is to understand and analyze what brought two people together, have they achieved or they are struggling to achieve and if the reasons that brought them together can not be achieved, then it is wise to terminate this romantic relationship. One bold step is to tell the other partner that they are not the path of achieving what will glue the relationship. If one can not say this straight, then it is wise to use an intermediary like a friend or counselor in that matter. At first it is not wise to talk directly but suspense can be in application to prepare for a soft landing for the shock of the year i.e. ending once a flourishing relationship. It is hard but points as to why en end is necessary must be clear and delivered at the right time. A phone call to end a relationship is not wise and ethical; therefore, phone calls may be only necessary especially when partners are far apart like different far countries. In such a case truth is best as (Marshall and Baildam 177) note that, “make it a motto to speak the truth in love”. Speaking the truth will set every partner free no matter what these people are undergoing. It must be remembered that treatment of the other partner with respect is always important. In cases of ending a romantic relationship that involves close members of a family for example cousins, parents should be involved to highlight the consequences of this relationship and consequently offer their intellect and counsel because this kind of relationship must be terminated.
The aforementioned steps to end romantic relationships must be followed to avoid future or later embarrassments. If they are not followed, then hatred is propped up among friends and families. A very good instance of hatred is when weddings are interrupted by former friends because their relationships were ended in an unsatisfactorily manner.
Relationships are very important and all people are what they are because of them. Although there are at times that relationships are ended, it must be done with wisdom to maintain the respect of others. Ending romantic relationships may involve other people like parents to offer their pieces of advice. There have very romantic relationships that have been terminated respectfully and through mutual understanding of both parties but they end being very good friend thereafter. It is possible that this other partner in an ended relationship attends the wedding of the other. Love plays a significant role in building and ending romantic relationships.