Different ways of rewarding or restricting a certain type of behavior can be used. Punishment is one of the ways of terminating disgraceful manner of conduct, which is commonly used for upbringing children and controlling the adults. Therefore, the main aim of this paper is to make a conclusion if punishment can be considered as an effective way of diminishing undesirable behavior. Moreover, own ideas and suggestions about applying punishment as an upbringing method will be provided.
Punishment as a Way of Controlling One’s Behavior
The information provided in the textbook argues the effectiveness of punishment. Talking about physical punishment, some researchers state that it does not necessarily eliminate unattractive behavior. Furthermore, punishment is extremely likely to provoke side effects, such as fear and anger, towards the punisher. Children might develop a feeling of hating and disrespecting the adults, who punish them in a severe way (Bordin et al., 2009). The main issue is that punishment does not explain how to behave in a better way. In fact, it is more about emphasizing the fact of someone conducting himself inadequately, but not helping to improve. However, such forms of punishment as verbal reprimands and loss of privileges are efficient ways of controlling dangerous and aggressive behavior.
According to Cappa & Khan (2011), who made a research about physical punishments in countries with low and middle income, punishment variations commonly depend on the social status of citizens. For instance, mothers with poor upbringing background and low income choose physical kind of punishment. Violent discipline increased their power and the level of respect over the child in their minds (Cappa & Khan, 2011). This kind of education cannot be proved since it does not improve the situation and the child’s behavior. Moreover, physical punishments have a strong connection with mental health problems, which are likely to take place in future (Bordin et al., 2009).
Suggestions about the Acceptable Kinds of Punishment
Although in this day and age many forms of punishment seem to be archaic, without even simple punishments, people would not be able to learn and improve their behavior. Thus, punishment is an essential part of life, without which society could be uncontrollable. I suggest applying a mixture of punishment and education in the process of bringing up children. Physical punishment is an unacceptable method of education, since it does not respect the rights of children. Moreover, it is inherently abusive considering the trusted role of the adults. I strongly believe that parents and teachers have to prioritize effective teaching of discipline without resorting to physical violence. They need to dedicate a lot of patience when explaining to a child the right way of behaving rather than simply telling off, because a child’s mind cannot rely on the powers of logic and reason.
An important skill in educating children is to treat them as young adults talking every issue through with them and promoting fair debate. Adults need to provide alternatives for the children to feel responsible for their choice. If a child does not want to do something, the adult might suggest not doing it in turn of not having something tasty or exciting, which the child would definitely want. It is called removing a pleasant stimulus, in other words.
Therefore, punishment is an effective way to be used for controlling and educating children, although the type of punishment has to be chosen carefully. Adults do not have a moral right to punish their children physically, since they cannot be an ideal example themselves. I recommend applying the kind of punishment, which gives explanations to what a child has done wrong. Such kind of punishment helps to improve the behavior in a rational manner rather than using violence. Moreover, it is necessary to involve a child into communication as much as possible.