Bullying is an aggressive behavior that is mostly intentional and is an imbalance of power repeated often. Bullying has been in the limelight in the recent past as it has become a hot topic when matters if school safety are discussed. Individually, I believe that bullying is a grave issue that requires immediate attention from all the respective authorities.
A report on bullying by Dr. Ronald Pitner, Ph. D, Assistant Professor of Social work in a St. Louis University, came up with a conclusion that bullying is a prevalent situation that has been in the school system for a very long time. Tuition The bullying situation in almost all schools is the same and so are the victims. The areas where bullying takes place is also predictable, areas that are unmonitored such as hallways, most restrooms and playing grounds are the most prone. He suggested that if school authorities could monitor such areas that he termed as hotspots, there will be a reduction in bullying cases. It is evident that eliminating bullying is an uphill task but cutting down on incidences is a stepping stone, Dr. Pitner.
A research on bullying by Dr. Douglas Boyle, Ph. D, a research administrator at the violence institute of New Jersey of the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey (22-24) discusses on the characteristics of both the bullies and the victims. The research goes ahead to describe the impacts, both long term and short term, that bullying has on the victims as well as the bullies.
Bullying takes a lot of forms and should be taken into consideration at all costs. It can take the form of verbal bullying whereby the students use bad names and other degrading comments. Additionally, bullying can be through isolation whereby there is social exclusion and other physical bullying such as hitting and shoving. Being threatened to do something an individual doesn’t want, racial bullying and sexual bullying are some of the few types of bullying we have in schools today.
There are various types of victims that have been described in the bullying situation; there are the passive victims, these children are generally anxious, unassertive as well as very insecure. They are therefore easily picked on by the bullies and there characteristics elevate when they are bullied. Another smaller type of victim is provocative victims who are very aggressive but anxious. They are mostly picked on by an entire class or there fellow peers. With time these children may end up bullying less aggressive children hence becoming both bullies and victims.
Characteristics of bullies
Bullies as opposed to what is widely believed, they do not have low self esteem and are very popular with the other kids in school. Most of the bullies have a positive belief in use of violence, other types of drugs, most of them have parents who do not show them any affection and some have a history of abuse in their lives. This children try what they can to make the lives of their victims as hell as possible.
There are three reasons that interrelate with each other on regard to bullying, some of the students who bully others have a strong desire for power, others find satisfaction in hurting other people and finally, others bully as a psychological reward. These reasons interconnect in a way and therefore should be looked into carefully.
Bullying has a really negative impact almost detrimental on the victims; most of the children usually have internal effects such as sadness, anxiety and to some extent, distress. Somatic effects also occur in the victims such as headaches and stomach aches and other physical injuries.
The victims may suffer from al sorts of anger issues, low self esteem, insecurity and confusion as they wonder why they are the ones being picked on. Students who experience bullying have poor academic performance as the feelings they are feeling may deter them from concentrating in their class work. Fear of being bullied may also make them not attend school at all as they experience the insecurities in school. In extreme cases, some students may have suicidal thoughts or even go the extreme of attempting suicide if no support is provided to them.
In the long run, students who were bullied carry the scars to later in their lives, Dr. Boyle did a follow up on boys that were bullied from grade six through to nine and followed their lives later in their lives when they were adults. It was evident that bullying had a vast impact on these boys as they experience low self esteem and had anger and depression issues as compared to those students who were not bullied.
When bullies are not stopped from these bad behaviours by the school system or their parents, they end being the bad seed in society. As compared to non bullies, the bullies mostly engage in the bad habits in the society as they grow up such as; drug abuse, vandalism, petty theft and truancy. These behaviors elevate as the children grow to adults and they develop antisocial behaviors when they become adults, (Ronald, 2012). The aggressive behavior has been discovered to be a very stable behavior in a person’s lifespan hence it is difficult for these children to get rid of such behavior hence most of them end up having criminal convictions at least by the age of 25.
Bullying is described as an old age problem in schools that has refused to go away; at least one- third of students in grade six through ten have experienced bullying. It has dire consequences on a child’s growth and hence should not be considered to be part of growing up. Measures should be taken by school authorities to ensure that all students are safe within the school compound. Bullying has negative impacts in both the victim and the bully’s future hence parents of bullies and victims should ensure their children get immediate help. Psychologists should make sure they give the appropriate therapy for these students as well as their families to ensure a positive and safe haven in homes and schools. It is a prevalent issue that needs immediate attention in homes, schools and the government should place measures for schools to engage in safety measures for all students in the school compounds.